Mom Life, C U R R E N T L Y || What Balancing Life As a Working Mom Has Taught Me

Monday, October 15, 2018


"How do you balance being a mom, a wife, + having a business?" -Everybody + They Momma

Me: I GOT THIS!
Also Me: That meme of the dog in a room that's on fire while smiling + saying "This is fine".

If I wrote this post a year ago, I would have been able to tell you everything to do since the balancing act was my jam. Fast forward to now + all I can give you are the best wine + cheese recommendations because life with a whole three-nager has been the most difficult yet. Winging it is an understatement + it's tough to nail down a formula when no two days are the same. So this blog post is my best attempt at answering my most asked question to date, while keeping it as real as possible.






The Real Talk
There are times when I feel like I'm killin' the work life balance game + other times I'm s u p e r o v e r w h e l m e d ! Even though BQ has been in my life for three years, I'm still a first time mom. So every phase of her life is BRAND new for me + I'm honestly navigating one day at a time. The minute I think I've got it down, she switches up on me + I'm pivoting...AGAIN! Not to mention I'm in this unknown lifestyle category where I'm a stay at home mom, but I also work from home as a content creator + consultant which makes balance even more of a challenge. One thing I am learning when it comes to motherhood is that no matter what I do #momguilt will find a way to manifest itself. For me, the pressure of balancing everything is when it comes to the forefront the most. I'm 100% sure that I'm the only one putting that pressure on myself + I'm constantly trying to work at not doing that. While it may look easy from the perspective of "the 'gram", know that social media is a highlight reel + can't fully portray what life is truly like, even though I try to be as transparent as possible.

What Has Worked For Me
I am no expert when it comes to the balancing act, but there are ways that I make sure I am using my time effectively + taking full advantage of any resource that I have to make life easier. Here are few things that have worked for me...

Plan, Plan, Plan + Plan Some More
You know that I am a BIG planner. I batch create my content by knocking out 4 looks in one photoshoot or curating a week's worth of content for myself or clients in one sitting so I can save time each day. I make my weekly to do list on Sunday nights + try my best to map out what each day will be like. Depending on which BQ I wake up to in the morning {I call her my sour patch kid} dictates how much of that to-do list gets done. If she's sweet, day to day housework gets checked off, I can blog during nap time {like I'm doing right now}, and I might even be able to nap myself. If she's sour, that's an entirely different ballgame, especially since she is probably acting out because she wants my full undivided attention. + on those days, I put everything else that I feel like "needs to be done" aside + realize that she needs me even if it's to watch Toy Story for the fifty-leventh time or go to the park even though I'm not a park mom. Whatever she needs is most important because she's my number one priority over everything! All of the other things will be there at the end of the day. {Side note tip to all of this: If you make a to-do list like I do, but your day isn't going as smoothly as planned, choose three things that are a priority to get done. That way you get the major needs out of the way and can feel good about accomplishing that. Just something I learned pretty early on in the mom game.}

Ask for Help
One thing my mom told me while I was pregnant with BQ is that if someone offers to help...LET THEM + if you need help...ASK! Remember when I talked about putting pressure on myself, well I think as mom's we all put pressure on ourselves to be superwoman {as clichè as that sounds}. Sometimes I feel like I'm supposed to be able to do it all no matter what + if I can't then I'm not a good mom. That's in no way accurate or realistic, but for some reason I will still feel that way. I have learned that I am the best mom when I ask for help. Whether that's asking a friend to watch BQ while I go to a meeting with a client, shoot content for the blog, or to sip coffee in peace. {I'm hoping to eventually be able to have a sitter one day week so I can accomplish what I need to get done + get my life/sanity at the same time.} I call my mom often to keep BQ for the weekend so Josh + I can go on an actual date + spend real time together without a toddler interrupting our attempt at a conversation. Whatever your needs are, think of who you can ask for help to meet them. Turns out that person probably has been wanting to help you all along without knowing how.

Take the Break
How do you know you need a break? Whenever I hit a wall creatively, mentally, or emotionally I TAKE THE BREAK! Sometimes when I go to write a blog post the screen stays blank + instead of forcing the content, I just stop + wait for the inspiration to hit {trust me, it always does}. Whether that's in one day, week, or month {I'm actually planning another social media/content hiatus in December} I take the break + thank myself for it later. This doesn't just apply in a blog/business sense, it 100% matters in motherhood. I can't be the best mom or wife if I'm not actively taking care of myself. If that means I have to call up my best friend to meet for tacos & tequila once a week...we gon' make that happen. Whatever allows you to reset + recharge, do that thing + do it r e g u l a r l y ! A tip I learned during one of Jereshia Hawk's business mastermind classes is when you are planning out your day to day, quarter, or year, schedule breaks! It's super simple + needed. When I was planning my 2018 at the beginning of the year, I scheduled to take a break the entire month of July. I didn't realize how much I would need it when that time came around! I was able to reset + recharge, enjoy the peak of summer, + get my life back in check.

Evaluate What's Important In the Moment
This is probably the hardest to do because everything feels important always. If you're someone who loves your job like I do, you give it everything you've got and make it a priority without even realizing it. With my job basically revolving around my phone it's hard for me to log off from day to day. I have been trying to make a point to focus or be all in with whatever I am doing at the moment. If that's working - I'm all in. If that's spending time with BQ - I'm all in. If that's going on a date or mini getaway with my husband - I'm all in with drink of choice in hand {+ making sure he get's a boomerang of me in the meantime, you know, Instagram Husband duties hahaha}.






No matter what phase you are moving in + out of in life, finding balance is hard work. Just like with anything else there are some who are better at it than others. We all find our groove + what works for us eventually. For me, as long as we are all happy at the end of the day, I know I'm doing something right.

How do you maintain balance in your life? I would love to learn your tips in the comments. Trust me, this mom needs all the help she can get + then some.

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4 comments:

  1. Although I don't have kids yet, I LOVE this post! I do know that being a mom is such hard work but finding semi-balance, realizing it is not perfect and asking for help is what I hope for when becoming a mother! Sounds like you are rocking it...keep it up!

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    1. Thank you so much for this! You are so right, its all about balance and letting go of perfection. Even if you plan for kids it's still the most unpredictable life ever! Once I learned to "go with the flow" and take things one day at a time, mom life in general got WAY less stressful and easier to navigate. Thanks again for your kind words and encouragement. I really appreciate it!

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  2. That mom guilt is real. I have a 10 month baby girl and I am a single parent. Like you I make three things on my list top priority and of course Ava is on top of those three things.

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    1. YES! My mini is on top of my list of three things too. I try not to let the mom guilt get the best of me, but sometimes I just can't help it. Thanks for sharing your story + experience with me. Us mama's gotta stick together.

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